3 Tips To Survive Long Distance Relationship|Ultimate Guide|

3 Tips To Survive Long Distance Relationship|Ultimate Guide|

Is Long Distance Relationship Work/Survive? 

I do because I am the king of Long Distance Relationships, or at least I was before I got married. It seemed like every relationship I had been a long distance relationship. That was actually part of my pattern. I think it was actually part of me not really wanted to be totally vulnerable and risk getting in a relationship so it was one of the strategies I used to kind of keep love away was being in long distance relationships. So if you notice that there's a pattern of that, its something to look at.  And there are lots of scenarios where long distance relationships happen because one of you is in the military or one of you goes to school or gets transferred with a job and it ends up separating you. So the question is then how do you keep that relationship alive? Well, I'm going to give you three tips and these really worked for me. I hope it works for you as well. So here's the first strategy. .
3 Tips To Survive Long Distance Relationship|Ultimate Guide|

1.To Have A Progression Plan. 

See, as human beings, we do much better when we know that we are moving in a particular direction towards a goal or towards something that we want. If we feel like things are stagnant or if they are not progressing, or worse yet, if they are decaying or dying, that's when the stress gets much bigger, that's When are we going to get overwhelmed, that's when we start to really feel like we're disconnected. So what's a progression plan in a relationship? A progression plan is what's the plan for you to be together again? Or at least what's the plan for you to have a plan? By when will you know? By when will you have more information about when you can be together again? Getting to those benchmarks, giving yourself a goal to say, Okay, I'm going to sustain the relationship over thousands or miles, or at least long distance, whatever that looks like for you, when you have a progression plan, that's going to use how you're wired up actually as a human being to gives you energy, creativity, insight, motivation, and momentum to then to Create a relationship , make it stronger until you get to that next moment when you're able to finally be together.

3 Tips To Survive Long Distance Relationship|Ultimate Guide|

2. To Have Consistent Connection.

 Now, that's much easier to do today than it was 10 years ago with all of our apps and you can have skype a phone number, you can Face time. You know, I travel for work sometimes and one of my favorite things to do is Face time with my wife and my daughter and its way better as far as establishing connection than what we had 10 years ago just even talking with a phone. So if you can do Face time, if you have that ability to communicate, not just over the phone, but face to face, it's going to really engage the connection. And also, several times throughout the day, have text messages going on throughout the day and connect. And then the last example of consistent connection is to honor the relationship the same way you would if you were living in the same house, in the same town, by having a consistent date nights. So, one of the things that my wife, when we were just dating, what we would do is we would have date nights. So Friday night would come and our date night was we're going to watch a movie on netflix together. So, we'd decide on what movie was wanted to watch, and we would go and rent the movie this was in the old days. You had to go and rent the movie. We would go to the store, we'd rent the movie, we'd bring it back, we'd put it into the player, we'd each pop our popcorn, have our drink, and I'd be at home on my couch, she would be at home on her couch, you know, I'd have a little headset on and the phone or whatever, and we would say, Okay, press Play. Ready, set, go, and we'd both press Play at the same time, and we would literally watch the movie over the phone together. So, she'd be watching the movie, I'd be watching the movie, and then we'd comment about the movie and kind of laugh together and hear each other together while we were watching the movie. Even though we were thousands of miles apart, it was a great way that helps us connect. So build in things like that for you. What is it that you and your special person can do together to help create that connection not only on a weekly basis for a date night, but also on a daily basis as well?
3 Tips To Survive Long Distance Relationship|Ultimate Guide|

3.To Delight And Surprise Each Other

 This really helps when you know your partner's love language. What matters to them most? Is it words of affirmation or is it quality time together or is it gifts? And put together care packages and send it their way if it's gifts. Surprise them, show up if it's quality time. Once of the great moves that I did in my relationship is that it was Valentine's Day and I told my girlfriend (my wife now), I said, hey let's do a special Valentine's Day date night where we're going to watch a romantic movie except we're going to do it different. I want you to dress up as if I'm taking you out to a Valentine's Day dinner and I'm going to dress up as if I was taking you out, and I know we're just going to be at home but it's a way that we can make it a little more special. So, I was setting this up on Monday and like Valentine's Day was on a Friday. And so as we got closer to Friday, I said, Hey, look, I've got meetings all day on Friday, so I won't actually be able to talk you until like right before our date night. It starts at 7:00, so like 6:30 I'll call you. She said, Okay, no problem. Well, little did she know I got all dressed up, I got on a plane, I flew to her hometown, rented a car, drive, and at 6:30, I called her on the phone from outside of her house, and I said, Hey, babe, are you ready for our date night? She said, Yeah. I said, Are you all dressed up like you promised you'd be? She goes, Yeah, I'm all dressed up. I said, so am I. And then I rang the doorbell, and she said, Hang on. Someone's at my door. I'll be right back. And she came to the door and answered the door, and it was me! And I'm like, surprise And she's like, oh my gosh, and she starts crying. She's like, No way. And sure enough, her hair was done, her makeup was done, the dress was like BAM. She was looking great, and I got to take her out on an amazing Valentine's Day night and the great thing is we had already had this way of connecting on Friday nights and here was a way that I got to delight and surprise her, really show her how much she meant to me and deepen our relationship.
3 Tips To Survive Long Distance Relationship|Ultimate Guide|

 So those are the three, strategies or you can say long distance relationship advice that you can use as well: a progression plan, know what you're building towards and then that will give you motivation when it gets tough to fight through those times when you are super lonely or things aren't going great. Number two: consistent connection. And number three: delight and surprise one another. When you use those, you'll help foster the love and the care between you two and together, you guys are going to be strong enough to make it through, be together again and have your amazing relationship. So, I hope this serves you. If it does, please share it with someone that you know is in this situation so, it can inspire them and motivate them to keep going. And I would love to hear from you. If you've ever had a long distance relationship, what has worked for you? Go ahead and post a comment below. I love reading your comments. Thanks so much for reading and visiting our blog Guide Lifestyle . ll see you soon. 

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